A while back when we were in the initial stages of wedding planning (as in throwing ideas around and not really doing anything) I knew that there were certain things that I didn’t want as part of our wedding and naturally I blogged about it. I definitely got some heat and some support and the term “bridezilla” was thrown around but I really didn’t think anything I said was all that bad. So now that wedding planning has fully commenced I decided I wanted to share that list as well as add some updates, so here we go, my wedding don’ts:
- As I already discussed, my hair will not be in an up-do. I just don’t have the hair or the face for it and it wouldn’t be me. Now my bridesmaids? I’ll leave it up to them what they’re most comfortable with because some of them may prefer the up-do, but me? No thank you.
- We’re not going somewhere cold for our honeymoon. Instead we’re going to Italy where it’s probably going to be hot hot hot and humid (maybe? I have no idea, I should probably look into that).
- The Macarena? No thank you. Conga Line? Not if I can help it. YMCA? Perhaps. Chicken Dance? I’m pretty sure this will happen since it’s a family tradition, oh goodness.
- Pastels are just not in the cards for us. Instead we’re going with navy blue as our primary color and kelly green and canary yellow as our accent colors and I sincerely heart it.
- As much as I love kids there won’t really be any at our wedding. The youngest kids there will be my brothers’ age (thirteen) and I’m quite okay with that. Luckily this won’t really be a conflict for many people either because only a few have super youngins and they’re local and can get a babysitter so it’s not too bad at all.
- High heels? HA! Well I HA in the face of heels that come anywhere near my feet. I’m 5′9”, Matt’s 6′ I don’t want to be taller than him and heck I don’t even wear heels normally, why change now? I’m currently on the hunt for some super cute sandals or flats to wear instead because that is just me. As for the bridesmaids? They can wear whatever they want, I’m guessing some of the shorties will wear heels some probably not, and I say whatever you’re comfortable in.
- Doves. Swans. Flying creatures of any kind will not be present. At least I hope they won’t. We’re getting married outside so I freaking hope all creatures of the avian variety stay far far away.
- Open mic is still not happening at the wedding. The rehearsal dinner? Sure. The wedding? I don’t think so. My dad, the MOH’s, the best men, sure? Everyone else just tell us yourself please.
That’s about all the don’ts we have for now and I’m okay with it, we have even more do’s but that’s a whole other post to share another day. And I don’t mean for this post to offend anyone, if you’re doing one of my don’ts or already did it, that’s great! Everyone is different and no two weddings are the same (just like snowflakes!, haha).
So what are some of your wedding don’ts?
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Can I second the open mic at weddings? Oy. Sometimes it sounds like a sweet idea .. but it can go on and on and really just bore everyone else to death
Way to stand your ground! 
Oh my goodness, I love that you’re not doing the open mic thing. Wedding speeches just make me want to break out into hives. I kind of get them, but I’m with you: “Everyone else just tell us yourself please.” these are my thoughts exactly!
I definitely don’t want an up-do either! It’s just not me, and I kind of would like to look like ME on my wedding day, lol. Same with the shoes thing, I’d be much happier in some super cute, colorful flats
Good list! I second the open mic at the wedding itself. I know things with my HUGE family will get out of control at the rehearsal, and I don’t want our guests to sit through that again.
Also? I love that you aren’t going to wear heels. I think I’ll end up wearing heels for the ceremony, then switching over to flip flops.
And one of my wedding don’ts? A coordinated dance of any sort for the wedding party. (Some of my sorority sisters were really into this… which is OK… but it’s not us.)
I really like the idea of doing any little speeches during rehearsal dinner. I went to a wedding like this last year, and it was just so much more intimate to hear the stories from everyone the night before.