I wrote this post on my blog about a week and a half ago and I’ve definitely calmed down, taken plenty of deep breathes and attacked this sucker head on, but I still feel like we all have a mini meltdown over the guest list and it needs to be share. Also, I received some great tips that I feel need to be shared, so here we go.
The Guest List Blues.
So it’s been a while since I’ve done some wedding talk and I figured today was as good as any to get some things off my chest.
For one, Matt and I rock. I’m pretty sure we’re one of the easiest couples to please and to work with and yes that does sound a bit arrogant but really, I think we are. We don’t have any ideas set in stone so we’re super flexible with people’s ideas and proposals and we’re nice.
So with that said, in the past month we’ve managed to hire a photographer, meet with a potential florist (meeting with another one this weekend) and booked a hotel block for our friends to stay in. Pretty much we’re right on track (so people stop telling me how soon August 28th is, I know when it is, haha) where we want to be and we’re slowly checking more things off our to-do list and it’s awesome.
I love that we’re doing so much together and being so efficient and it’s just all sorts of sweetness. However, what’s not so sweet and what I’ve been dreading since we first got engaged? THE GUEST LIST.
We’ve already sort of worked on the guest list before but now we really have to get serious since Save the Dates go out next month and I’m having heart palpitations just thinking about it. I feel bad because I’ve freaked out on Matt saying how it just sucks because there are so many people I want there and we can only afford so many and yeah I’m a whiner sometimes.
Basically we both have huge families and have kept in touch with a lot of friends and yeah narrowing it down has just been difficult to say the least and I tend to freak out and whine and complain and wish that we’d magically get more money to invite more people but I know that’s just not happening.
So in the meantime I love everything about our wedding except the guest list. How did you/will you/should I get over the guest list blues? Maybe just start picking names from a hat, haha?
After I posted this some of the tips I got included:
- Throwing a party or a BBQ for everyone so people who can’t come to wedding can at least still celebrate with us.
- Putting names on a dart board to make selections, haha.
- Make sure that the people I truly love and couldn’t imagine them not attending get added to the list first.
- Write the guest list several times without consulting previous lists and if someone is left off more than once then they add them to the B list.
- Invite people that are important to both me and Matt that way we feel connected to absolutely everyone there.
What guest list tips do you have to add?
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I really like the idea of a BBQ.
The problem I have on my guest list, is that there are some people I want there, others I’m ok not inviting, but then you add the “they’re the same group I hang out with so I cannot invite one without the other”
The only reason I haven’t freaked out (yet) is that since it’s a destination wedding, I know a LOT of those people won’t make it, so at the end, it should make our final guest list fairly manageable.